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| − | </noinclude> | + | <!-- 5. Aplicar o seguinte método de resolução de conflito em um exemplo do item número 2. --> |
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| − | When setting the scene the two parties in conflict come together. It is important to listen to the other side without interjecting defenses of your own position. Otherwise this will descend into an argument and nothing will be resolved. Use active listening techniques, meaning you repeat your understanding of what has just been said to you. If your understanding is incorrect, the person whose views you have misconstrued will let you know. Be careful that active listening does not become ''arguing''.
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| − | Pay special attention to the interests of the other party. Find out what their concerns are. Keep in mind that they may have valid objections to the solution you wish to put forward, and that it is very possible that you yourself could be wrong.
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| − | When presenting your side of the story emphasize that you are relating your ''perception'' of the problem. The goal here is to get the other party to recognize your concerns and interests.
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| − | Both sides have presented their perception of the problem and have stated their interests and goals. Now it is time to explore these viewpoints.
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| − | In this phase you are trying to clarify exactly what the problem is. It is very possible that up to this point the two parties have been arguing over two different issues. Try to come up with a mutually agreed statement of the problem.
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| − | Once the parties have agreed on a definition of the problem, it is time to start putting out possible solutions. No solution should be judged at this point, as doing so will inhibit the flow of ideas. Write every idea down, no matter how crazy it seems. By not judging the solutions at this point, the floor is open to everyone present. Be sure that everyone there is engaged and is presenting ideas. The less assertive will resist this, especially if ideas are being shot down as they are presented.
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| − | Use the method outlined in the previous requirement. Once you have come up with several solutions, evaluate them as objectively as possible. Think about how people will be affected by each approach. Eliminate the solutions that will likely make the problem worse. Then examine the remaining solutions. Which one will benefit the most people? Will that one hurt someone else? Do the benefits outweigh the costs? Lead the person with whom the decision lies through this analysis and let them choose a course of action. It is possible that the person may tell you that they will solve the problem the way you suggest just to shut you up, so be aware of that. Try to get the person to buy into the solution. If no good solution can be found try brainstorming again. It is possible that there is ''no'' good solution though, and the person may be faced with nothing but bad choices. The goal here is to find the ''best'' solution, not necessarily a ''good'' solution.
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| − | </noinclude> | + | <!-- 6. Explicar como fazer encaminhamento a um conselheiro profissional ou pastor. --> |
| − | <!-- 6. Explain how to make a referral to a professional counselor or pastor. --> | |
| − | When your friend is facing a crisis that is too big for you to handle, you need to refer him to someone with professional training. Doing this is ''not'' abandoning your friend, but rather, recognizing that his problems are beyond your ability to help. There are four steps in making a referral:
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| − | ;Prepare your friend: Before you can prepare your friend, you are going to need a lot of information about the services professional offers and have a concrete understanding of how it can help. Then you need to share that information with your friend. Assure your friend that seeking professional help is not a sign of weakness. Rather, it is often the most effective and least painful path to recovery.
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| − | ;Get your friend's participation: The decision to see a professional belongs to your friend, not to you. Do not pressure your friend into making this decision. It may take some getting used to, and the decision might take a long time to make.
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| − | ;Prepare the professional: Once your friend has decided to see the professional, you should call and talk to them. Do not make the appointment for your friend. Ideally your friend should to that for himself, but if the situation is especially urgent, you might make the appointment for your friend yourself. When you speak to the professional, tell them as much as you are comfortable about the situation, and why you think the referral is important. The more the counselor knows about the problem, the better able he will be to help. Make sure that the things you have told your friend about the professional hold true, and ask if they think they can really help.
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| − | ;Follow up: After your friend's first appointment, ask how it went. You do not need to pry into the details of the session, but you should certainly ask if there is anything you can do to help your friend. Your continued support can help ensure a positive outcome.
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| − | The point of this requirement is for the individual to examine his own reasons for wanting to help someone. Unfortunately, there are many more bad reasons to want to get involved than there are good reasons. The only valid reason to get involved is out of love. Invalid reasons include curiosity, the desire to gossip, the desire to feel better about oneself for helping, or out of a sense of wanting to control the other person's life. Sometimes people think that their friends cannot get themselves out of their mess without their help. There are almost certainly more invalid reasons for getting involved than those listed here. But that doesn't mean you should not get involved. Just be sure you are doing so for the right reason!
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| − | ==Historical Note==
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| − | This honor was previously called Crisis Intervention. In 2009 it was renamed Conflict Resolution and somewhat rewritten. Much of it is the same as before, but there are some major differences.
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| + | ==Referências== |
| − | == References == | |
| − | *''How to Help a Friend'' (second edition) by Paul Welter, Tyndale House, Wheaton, Illinois (1991)
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| − | *''Christ-Centered Caring'' by Ronaele Whittington, AdventSource, Lincoln, Nebraska (1990)
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| − | * [http://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newLDR_81.htm Mind Tools: Conflict Resolution]
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