AY Honors/Christian Grooming & Manners/Answer Key
1. What well-balanced combination of strengths did Jesus develop as a growing youth? (Luke 2:52)
- [math]\displaystyle{ ^{52} }[/math]And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men.
2. According to Psalm 8 what estimate does God place on your personal worth?
- [math]\displaystyle{ ^1 }[/math] O LORD, our Lord,
- how majestic is your name in all the earth!
- You have set your glory
- above the heavens.
- [math]\displaystyle{ ^2 }[/math] From the lips of children and infants
- you have ordained praise [b]
- because of your enemies,
- to silence the foe and the avenger.
- [math]\displaystyle{ ^3 }[/math] When I consider your heavens,
- the work of your fingers,
- the moon and the stars,
- which you have set in place,
- [math]\displaystyle{ ^4 }[/math] what is man that you are mindful of him,
- the son of man that you care for him?
- [math]\displaystyle{ ^5 }[/math] You made him a little lower than the heavenly beings [c]
- and crowned him with glory and honor.
- [math]\displaystyle{ ^6 }[/math] You made him ruler over the works of your hands;
- you put everything under his feet:
- [math]\displaystyle{ ^7 }[/math] all flocks and herds,
- and the beasts of the field,
- [math]\displaystyle{ ^8 }[/math] the birds of the air,
- and the fish of the sea,
- all that swim the paths of the seas.
- [math]\displaystyle{ ^9 }[/math] O LORD, our Lord,
- how majestic is your name in all the earth!
3. Are names important to God? Does He know your name? (Isaiah 43:1, Exodus 33:17, Isaiah 45:4)
Isaiah 43
- [math]\displaystyle{ ^1 }[/math] But now, this is what the LORD says—
- he who created you, O Jacob,
- he who formed you, O Israel:
- "Fear not, for I have redeemed you;
- I have summoned you by name; you are mine.
Ex 33:17
- And the LORD said to Moses, "I will do the very thing you have asked, because I am pleased with you and I know you by name."
Is 45:4
- For the sake of Jacob my servant,
- of Israel my chosen,
- I summon you by name
- and bestow on you a title of honor,
- though you do not acknowledge me.
4. Demonstrate or discuss proper conversational skills, including:
a. The proper way to talk to adults
b. How to address people and make proper introductions
c. Questions to avoid
d. How to think of pleasant things to say
e. How to show concern for the feelings of others
f. What to say when you answer the door
g. How to answer the telephone correctly
5. If you want to use your gift of speech to God's glory, what should your prayer be? (Psalm 19:14)
- [math]\displaystyle{ ^{14} }[/math] May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart
- be pleasing in your sight,
- O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.
6. List seven points showing the power of correct posture. Check your posture and body profile. Demonstrate how to stand and sit correctly. Read Education, by Ellen G. White, page 198, paragraph 3, and note the benefits mentioned that come to you as a result of correct posture.
7. Give two reasons why physical fitness is important. Explain the relationship between proper diet, exercise, and weight control.
8. Tell the importance of proper grooming, including bathing, body hygiene, breath, proper care of clothes, shoes, etc.
9. Describe the proper way to wash your hair and care for your "hair tools."
- Hair should be saturated with water before applying shampoo. This is more important than you might realiz, as it removes any conditioner or styling aids left in from before.
- The amount of shampoo used should be according to the length of your hair. Long hair should use only about a tablespoon (15 ml). Shorter hair, obviously less.
- Massage scalp to loosen the dead skin cells. This is often what becomes dandruff. Work up a lather by massaging your scalp with your fingers and scalp brush.
- Rinse well. We often don't spend enough time rinsing the soap from our hair. Be sure to check the hair line before you go on to the next step. You may notice that during the first shampoo, you won’t have much lather. That is because your hair is still dirty! Rinse well and then repeat, but this time, let the shampoo sit for a minute. Rinse, then press the water out of your hair. Never squeeze or pull your hair when it’s wet. Instead, smooth your hands down from the top of your head down to remove excess water, an important step before adding any conditioner.
- Apply conditioner and distribute it to the ends where the oldest and most damaged area of your hair can be found. It needs all the help it can get. Try to leave the conditioner on your hair for about a minute. Then rinse it thoroughly.
10. Describe the proper care for your hands and fingernails.
Hands are the most visible parts of you, but they also take a lot of abuse. You use them in everyday activity, and yet, they are the ultimate accessory. You must give them the same attention you give your face.
- Soften your hands even while you do the dishes. Add a little almond oil (about a teaspoon) to dishwater. The water will soften rought skin while the oil seals the moisture.
- Slough off dead skin cells with a solution made of sea salt lemon. Brush it into hands with an old toothbrush. Do this twice a week to soften hands and remove discoloration.
- Wash hands thoroughly with warm water, then, using a coarse washcloth, rub briskly. While skin is slightly damp, apply a mixture of one teaspoon honey and one teaspoon olive oil. Place hands in small plastic bags, then in a pair of cotton gloves for thirty minutes. The heat helps the treatment penetrate.
- Warm a cup of milk in the microwave for thirty seconds (or until warm, but comfortable to the touch). Soak your hands for five minutes to strengthen nails and hydrate skin. Not only is milk loaded with lactic acid, a natural alpha hydroxy acid that gently exfoliates dead skin, but its high calcium content will strengthen fragile nails.
11. Know the importance of daily "soul-grooming" and of building a Christian character and why "belonging to Christ" makes a difference in the way you dress and act.
12. Discuss scriptural guidelines that will help you cope with your sexuality and keep your thoughts-life clean. Discuss intelligently the "dos and don'ts" of dating.
13. List four reasons why your face is important to you, and show how the way you exercise and sleep can improve your facial appearance. What relationship do thoughts have to facial "print-out"? Describe proper facial care.
Lack of exercise: Living a sedentary life contributes to aging skin, because exercise helps tone muscles and gets blood flowing. Exercise should be an important part of every anti-aging skin care program.
- Lack of sleep: Too little sleep makes you look and feel tired. One of the first places lack up sleep shows up is on the face, with dark circles and bags under the eyes, and sagging skin.
Research has shown that most adults function best with 8-9 hours of sleep each night. Reduce caffeine during the day (with none in the evening), avoid eating at least 2 hours before bedtime, and maintain a sleep routine that includes going to bed at the same time each night.
If you are having trouble sleeping, for any reason, it’s important to see your health care provider.
Stress: Maybe you’ve heard this expression: “Don’t frown, your face could stay that way.” Stress and worry cause frowning, and over time the muscles in the face actually conform to that movement.
To help reduce aging skin due to stress, be aware of your stress level and try to vary your facial expressions during the day. A good anti-aging skin care program should include meditation, yoga, gentle exercise or other relaxation techniques. Keeping stress in check -- and frown lines and aging skin wrinkles to a minimum -- will help you look and feel younger.
14. Know the rules of table etiquette which make it easier for you and those around you, such as what to do with your knife and fork after using them. Know how to be a welcome dinner guest and a joy to your hostess.
When meeting people both your nonverbal and verbal behavior help to define your social skills. Using effective handshakes, good eye contact, and making the proper introductions show proper etiquette.
A. Handshakes are vital in social situations.
1. Develop a comfortable handshake and keep it consistent. 2. Handshakes should not be too hard; or too soft. 3. Make a solid connection of the web skin between the thumb and forefinger. 4. The host or person with the most authority usually initiates the handshake.
B. Eye contact is another critical factor when meeting people.
1. Eye contact increases trust. 2. It shows confidence and good interpersonal skills. 3. Eye contact shows respect for the person and business situation.
Proper introductions help to establish rapport when meeting people.
1. Authority defines whose name is said first. Say the name of the most important person first and then the name of the person being introduced. 2. Introduce people in the following order: 1. younger to older 2. non-official to official 3. junior executive to senior executive 4. colleague to customer 3. Keep the introduction basic. 4. Remember names for future reference. 5. Provide some information about the people you are introducing to clarify your relationship with that person. 6. Always carry business cards. 7. Keep notes on people in order to follow-up both personally and professionally.
IV. Telephone Etiquette
When speaking on the telephone, proper etiquette is just as important as when you meet someone in person.
A. How you conduct yourself on the telephone tells others as much about you as face-to-face interactions.
B. Always try to return your calls on the same day.
C.Keep business conversations to the point.
D. Do not keep someone on hold more than 30 seconds.
E. Always leave your phone number if you ask for someone to call you back.
F. Maintain a phone log to refer back to for valuable information.
G. Listening is essential whether in person or on the phone.
H. Make sure your voice mail is working properly. V. Dining Etiquette
In today's business world, a tremendous amount of business is conducted at a dinner table. Whether at home or in a restaurant, it is important to have a complete understanding of how to conduct yourself when entertaining or being entertained.
Anxiety while dining can be reduced by following guidelines on how to order your meal, what utensils to use and how to use them, and knowing proper table etiquette.
A. Knowing guidelines on what to order will help relieve dining anxiety.
1. When possible let the host take the lead. 2. Ask for suggestions/recommendations. 3. Do not order the most expensive or the least expensive item on the menu. 4. Avoid foods that are sloppy or hard to eat. 5. Avoid alcohol even if others are drinking.
B. Choosing the correct silverware is not as difficult as it may first appear. Knowledge of a formal table setting will allow you to focus on the conversation rather than what utensil to use.
A Few Rules
* Do not play with the table utensils or crumble the bread. * Do not put your elbows on the table, or sit too far back, or lounge * Do not talk loud or boisterously * Be cheerful in conduct or conversation * Never, if possible, cough or sneeze at the table. * Never tilt back your chair while at the table, or at any other time. * Do not talk when the mouth is full * Never make a noise while eating * Do not open the mouth while chewing, but keep the lips closed. It is not necessary to show people how you masticate your food. * Never indicate that you notice anything unpleasant in the food. * Do not break your bread into the soup, nor mix with gravy. It is bad taste to mix food on the plate. * Never leave the table before the rest of the family or guests, without asking the host or hostess to excuse you. * Eat soup with the side of the spoon, without noise. * The fork is used to convey the food to the mouth, except when a spoon is necessary for liquids. * Raw oysters are eaten with a fork. * If you wish to be served with more tea or coffee, place your spoon in your saucer. * Tea or coffee should never be poured into the saucer to cool, but sipped from the cup. * If a dish is presented to you, serve yourself first and then pass it on.
Rules of Etiquette and Home Culture, 1886
* Never allow butter, soup or other food to remain on your whiskers * Never wear gloves at the table, unless your hands are for some special reason unfit to be seen. * Never, when serving others, overload the plate nor force upon them delicacies which they decline. * Never make a great display when removing hair, insects or other disagreeable things from your food. Place them quietly under the edge of your plate.
Hill's Forms
* Eat Cheese with a fork, not a knife * Ask a servant in a low tone for what you want * Break your bread, do not cut it. * Eat fruit with silver knives and forks * If you prefer, take up asparagus with the fingers. Olives and artichokes are always so eaten * If a course is set before you that you do not wish, do not touch it. * It is not your business to reprove the waiter for improper conduct; that belongs to your host. * A gentleman must help a lady whom he has escorted to the table, to all she wishes; but it is improper for him to offer to help other ladies who have escorts * Use a napkin only for your mouth. Never use it for your nose, face or forehead. * It is very rude to pick your teeth at the table. If it becomes necessary to do so, hold your napkin over your mouth.
15. List ten principles to help you overcome self-consciousness and social embarrassment.
For Young Ladies
16. Demonstrate two exercises that will improve your posture.
Standing posture
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Stand with weight mostly on the balls of the feet, not with weight on the heels *
Keep feet slightly apart, about shoulder-width *
Let arms hang naturally down the sides of the body *
Avoid locking the knees *
Tuck the chin in a little to keep the head level *
Be sure the head is square on top of the neck and spine, not pushed out forward *
Stand straight and tall, with shoulders upright *
If standing for a long period of time, shift weight from one foot to the other, or rock from heels to toes. *
Stand against a wall with shoulders and bottom touching wall. In this position, the back of the head should also touch the wall - if it does not, the head is carried to far forward (anterior head carriage).
Walking posture
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Keep the head up and eyes looking straight ahead *
Avoid pushing the head forward *
Keep shoulders properly aligned with the rest of the body